Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Blog Parenting

I've discovered that blogging can in fact facilitate good parenting.

Work with me people.

For instance, let's just say that the Mommy blogger in the house had to get "some work" done this past weekend, and the eldest daughter of said Mommy blogger was hungry for lunch.

Hmmm.

Mommy Blogger says to Little Red Riding Hood daughter, "Just one minute."

A couple of minutes pass.

Daughter says in dramatically whiney voice, "Mommmm, I'm sooo hungry."

Mom replies while typing away, "Just let me finish typing this one last thing."

A couple more minutes pass.

Daughter cries, "Mom, you said you'd make me lunch an hour ago."

Mom says while still typing away, "What do you want?"

Daughter says, " PBJ, strawberries, and chips."

Mom says, "I'll be right, there," with no intention of stopping.

Daughter says, "You keep saying that."

Mom says, "You know where the PBJ and bread is, don't you?" while still typing.

Daughter says, "Yeah."

Mom says, "Then you can make it yourself. You're old enough."


Daughter says, "How?"

Mom says, "Get a butter knife, spread the PBJ, get some strawberries from the fridge, grab the chips from the pantry and get a napkin," never once looking up from the keyboard.

Daughter says, "What about my milk?

Mom says, "You can get it yourself. Just be careful."

Daughter says, "Oh. "

Wow. That was easy. Mommy Blogger never had to leave her laptop or stop typing, and daughter was proud she made lunch all by herself.

And that my friends is how you teach your children to fend for themselves independence.

I call that "blog parenting. "

Now my son wants breakfast. Sheesh, does it ever end?

Let me finish typing first.

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47 Comments:

Karen said...

As I see it, you have a couple of options here. The experiment with LRRH went well, so you could repeat it by requesting that the boy gets his own breakfast.

Or, as you have proved that LRRH has successfully mastered BBJ, strawberries and chips, then getting her brother cereal and milk should be a snap.

That way, you are teaching your children some important life lesson and being able to continue yourimportant blogging tasks as well. That, my dear, is good mothering!

Dawn@Embracing the Ordinary Life said...

My dd is like that...I tell her "there is no food in here" and then she storms off and raids the kitchen leaving every door open, spilled drink on the counter, and wrappers, crumbs and utencils everywhere...hmmm, I may need to rethink that idea...

Lauren W said...

Ha! This is hilarious to me if only because of my sister. My oldest niece is 9, and my sister is adamant that everybody needs a 9-yr-old (I know LRRH is only 8, but she's on her way) for this very reason. It's like all of the sudden they realize that all that magic you've been working around the house and in the kitchen isn't really so complicated ("Gee, I CAN make a PBJ!"). Anyway, absolutely teaching independence. That's a valuable lesson ;)

{Anissa} said...

I can't do that -- my baby grabs my hand and says imon Moma
{meaning come on mommy} then again he is 2 so could you imagine what my kitchen would look like. LOL

Bobbi said...

Too funny!

Hot Tub Lizzy said...

My mom taught Essie to make her own grilled cheese yesterday. You KNOW that's gonna come in HANDY!!!!

Kat said...

I love that Katie makes her own breakfast and lunch. And often will do the same for her sister. Gives one time to blog. Or sleep in on weekends...

And truly...that sense of independece for them is quite valuable. Not matter the circumstances that made it come about :-)

Lula! said...

This mirrors recent events in my house. I know we were separated at birth--and you've confirmed that our daughters were, too!

SKELLER said...

Mother of the Day Award!! goes to .... DEBBIE!!!

hehehe.... quietly chuckling and relating ;-)

Strawberry Blonde said...

Yeah, I've used the one more minute thing, too. Now, I need to instill bloggy parenting. However, my son is only four and I want him nowhere near a butter knife left to his own devices. That would be scary.

Kathi said...

Hilarious, but true!

This could've been a scene out of my own life.

You have to check out my anniversary present....it was quite an adventure.

Debateur said...

I wish that worked with my husband. He'd make dinner but I'd have to fend for myself when I came down because I didn't choose to eat with the family.

Piggy said...

Is it too early to try that with Piggy who just turned 13 months? Why? Because I just found out this past weekend that I'm pregnant again! :D

Piggy said...

P.S. I'm still nursing the first, so I guess I'm eating for three now! Maybe it's time to wean. :D

HeathahLee said...

I have had this exact conversation with my son. Several times, in fact. I mean, he IS 8, he needs to learn independence, right? : )

Amy said...

I've been "computer parenting" for some time now. The only downfall to it is my kitchen (house) is a mess when I finally take a break :)

Jules said...

Yup! The life of a blogger! I am SO there with you. Self-sufficient is a good word in my house!

Um, I wrote a post kindof, sortof about this, a while back, that you might like.

http://mum42.blogspot.com/2008/06/life-of-blogger-or-things-that-happen.html

dddiva said...

LOL how I relate to this. The little diva's are always accusing me of "justonelastthing"ing them to death.
Now that they are older and their time is not limited and we don't share a computer, though, I could say the same thing about them. ;)

Emily said...

nope. It never ends. They always want food from us. What gives with that?

Melissa said...

I'm feeling a kindred spirit betwixt us. I just got up out of guilt to fix my 3 year old daugter a 60 second corn dog, since she can't yet reach the microwave.

HappyHourSue said...

O.M.G. How hard did I laugh at this post. that is an exact conversation from my house daily. It's bordering on neglect, really - letting my 7 year old slice things with knives and use the microwave so I can 'finish this one thing". Thank God it's not just me.

Karin @ 6ByHisDesign said...

I'm laughing, Debbie. We can all relate.

Trish said...

I call that responsible parenting........

we are supposed to raise our children to be independent and capable of doing for themselves!

I taught my kids to make their own quesadillas (in the microwave) when they were 4.

Carol said...

Excellent I am so relieved because I actually thought I was neglecting my kids whilst blogging but your explanation is so much more to my liking.

imbeingheldhostage said...

Hah! I do this waaay too often and never had the guts to admit to it (let's just say I'm already NOT winning the Mom of the Year award, I don't want to add fuel to my future firing). This was hilarious.

I'd love to tell you how I got here, but it was a sort of rambling-- I think it originated at Laura from Mom of Six.

Emily said...

I know all too well about this... poor kids.

Jaci said...

I swear blogging taught my daughter independent play and how to use her imagination. Pre-blogging I had to sit on the floor entertaining her all day. Now? After a couple months of begging me to leave my computer? She plays quite happily with her dolls and creates funny conversations for them. Like Martha says, IT'S A GOOD THING.

Michelle said...

Too funny! This morning Mister Man woke up and was hungry... I was REALLY tired -- up too late last night and husband was out the door and woke me up at 5. So I sent him downstairs to get some bread for himself. He came back up because he couldn't open it, so I told him to bring it to me. It was already open... so I showed him the size of the piece he could have and sent him on his way. He didn't bother me again until 8:14. I sort of feel like a bad mom, but he WAS awfully proud of himself.

Katy Lin :) said...

lol! love it! :)

Jennifer P. said...

Yes "just let me finish typing..." has become quite the catch phrase around here! I found out that if you open the dishwasher, put a cup on the door that's down, then have them pour their own milk there-- that they can just close up whatever might spill and you won't have to stop typing to clean anything up :). Yes---independence---we're good mommies teaching our little ones independence :)

Tracy P. said...

Debbie, you've been spying on me! You didn't have to go and write a post about it for everyone to see though! Sshhhh... :-)

I'm not sure that my telecommuting husband completely shares your perspective, but I totally believe they will benefit from learning to work things out for themselves. Yeah, that's it.

Heather said...

I'M YELLING RIGHT NOW BECAUSE I FEEL VINDICATED!! Seriously...you made my whole year letting me know I'm not the only one "blog parenting". Thank you, Debbie, thank you.

Sniz said...

Oh Debbie, I've missed you and your wonderful posts on my self-exile from the blogging world. I have to admit I stumbled upon blog parenting myself a few months ago. Because of that my children can now: Make pancakes, make jewelry, paint works of art, write amazing letters to friends and family (longhand), quote memorized passages from Hannah Montana...I mean the Bible, make dinner for the whole family (so they actually will have something to eat), sort and do the weekly laundry (so they will actually have something to wear), make the grocery list and drive to the grocery store...well, I might have made up the last one. But seriously, I'm thinking of writing a book. We should be co-authors. :-)

Swirl Girl said...

I think you might have stumbled on something here....can we teach them to drive themselves too?

No more night night kisses,and band-aid placements, and butt wiping, and bed making.

Can it be true??

Sissy said...

It's about time she learned how to make a sandwich. I've been meaning to tell you that your children need to be more independent, as I am such an expert on this subject.

Yeah, right.

Great job mommy blogger. Now, what I really want to know is what the kitchen looked like when you actually went in there.

Rhea said...

This conversation sounds sooo familiar. I tell my kids to make their own food...but they still whine.

and whine

and whine.

So, I give in and feed them. Darnit.

Melissa Lester said...

You are too funny -- and right! As I popped over to just spend "a minute" blog hopping, my girls are downstairs telling me they are hungry. At 4 and 2, they're not to young to learn, are they?

No way, I just peeked at them, and they have helped themselves! Oh, I am such a great mom.

Melanie said...

I strongly believe in the whole independence thing. I do suffer from bouts of guilt every now and then but not strong enough to change my ways.

Mamasphere said...

Have you been spying on me? I even go so far as to tell my four year old that I'm "working". So far she's only gone to bed hungry once.

Z's Mom said...

Is it too early to start this when they are only 21 mos old?

sharon said...

haha! Do you have a camera in my house?? I swear I had the same conversation with my 10 year old over lunch yesterday... only it was over mac and cheese. ;)

Lilith Silvermane said...

Yea... when they ask for a glass of water at night, it takes 30 minutes before you finally ask the 16 year old to get it for them...

I really need to unplug :) I've become a pro though!

Kimba said...

Oh my. I'm embarrassed to admit how often we have this conversation in our house. Only my oldest is 4 and he can't reach the peanut butter yet.

Maybe I need to start putting things on the lower shelves. Hmmmmmmmm...

PhatMom said...

HA! You sound JUST like me!!! I am so adding your blog to my blogroll!!!

Texan Mama @ WhoPutMeInCharge said...

Hey you might want to think about putting a widget on your sidebar for people to subscribe to your blog. It is a lot easier than going to the reader, typing in the address, finding the address, etc etc. Just a thought. BTW I subscribed!

SuburbanCorrespondent said...

Benign neglect is what we call it around here. It's good for them.

Briana said...

Sad part is I do that all the time!