Wednesday, June 4, 2008

Mommy Blogging- Do I need a 12 step program?

When do you “it”?

Ha…how many of you went “there?” I mean when do you blog?

I do it whenever I can and not feel guilty which is usually when the kids are at school, but oh wait, I do feel guilty because that is when I should be doing something else like laundry or cleaning the house or one of my million house projects or running errands so that I don’t have to take away time from them when they get home from school. BUT, now that my son is out of pre-school, my mornings have been spent playing Trouble, Monopoly Junior and hitting all the parks in the neighborhood. I have tried to sneak a peak or two while he gets his morning dose of Little Einsteins and Higglytown Heroes...or just before I pick up my daughter from school or whenever I am on my way out of the bathroom. And in two weeks, when my daughter is out of school, blogging in the morning may not even exist. Oh wait, I might have to work that into our morning routine. Recently, because I don’t really watch TV, I have been blogging in the evening or late into the evening, or into the early morning which causes me to be tired and grumpy and ready for a Red Bull at 9 am because a diet coke with lemon just won’t hack it. So if I wrote a comment that you couldn't quite understand, you now know why.

Where do I blog? Well, would you look at that, I have a picture of it:




However, I have been known to bring the laptop into the kitchen or up to our bedroom. But that doesn't happen very often.

How do I blog? In my mind ALL.DAY.LONG.

Since I started blogging, it seems like I look through everything with blogger's lens. I'm always looking for that next great blogworthy moment. I look at any situation or event or you name it with three thoughts in mind:

Is this good enough write about? Yes. No. Maybe.
Can I make it funny? Usually.
Can I take a picture or find a picture? Pretty much always.

But then here's the reality: Everything ends up good enough to write about, like the day I fell into the toilet when the seat was left up. Everything can be made funny, you know like how my first name has one foot in the Name Cemetery and is ready for burial with all your grandmother's names. And everything can be brought to life with a picture from a camera, you know like the day I left those leftovers out, or put the Cheerios in the fridge. Yeah my bloggers lens is always on, always looking and never descriminating. That is why I can tell you about the crack in the potty seat or laugh at myself when someone called me a "Grandma" or admit that I accidentally stopped my neighbor's mail. Oh, and if you are new over here in my slice of the blog world, I have a diet coke addiction that has caused me to do some, well, blogworthy things ;)

Speaking of addictions......

Hi, my name is Debbie and I, uh, mmm, let's see....oh I'm not going there....

How many of you wake up wondering if anyone left you a comment over night? How many of you log on first thing in the morning to check and see if anyone left you a comment over night? How many of you sneak visits to your "laptop friends" during the day when you’ve told the kids that you were done? Do you say something like “I need to check email” or “I need to check the bank balance online” or “I need to IM Daddy to find out when he is coming home.” Or how many of you have let your kids watch one extra TV show because you had to type that one last thing? How many of you have skipped doing laundry or chores to do your "morning rounds?" How many of you consider your "laptop friends" to be real friends?

Raise your hand if you are trying to cut back. Raise your hand if you can't. Raise your hand if you don't want to. Raise your hand if you are looking for a twelve step program. Raise your hand if you don't think you need one. Guess what? We probably do.

When, Where, How, and Are you addicted?


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32 Comments:

veronica said...

Hey Debbie, you know me! I am a blog stalker. I can read blogs all day long. I love reading about other people's lives because mine isn't crazy enough already. They give me alot of things to think about but also some great laughs. Like I said maybe one day I will get up the nerve to start my own. Andy already thinks I'm crazy for spending my day reading about strangers! I can't imagine what he would say if I started one. Oh well I have to go lurk on someone else now. Have a great day.

Evi said...

oh yes...and I check it every two minutes until I leave for work in the morning because you never know how many hourds of people may have commented between now and two minutes ago...and you wouldn't want to let them down!
I LOVED seeing your working space, I am such a 'spatial' person, now I can imagine you sitting there...very cool.
I can't wait until I can get a hold of my camera cord...
Off to work, have a great day!

Elena said...

I've even been known to escape upstairs to the office while guests are here. (Just for a quick peak at the comment meter though.) That's pretty pathetic isn't it? Yep, I think I need a 12step program. Oh, who am I kidding? I have no desire to stop and I am sure that has to be one of the top 12 things before you can change.

Trish said...

Step One: We admit we were powerless over our addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable.
(don't ask why I know that!)

Addiction, what addiction. I can stop anytime I want to. I'll fold that laundry someday and having a clean house is sooooo overrated.
My kids are rarely neglected and I have found something fun that I love to do.

But ohhh, I did love the peek into where you blog!!

Kat said...

Obsession. Yep, that's me. My email is up all the time...so I know when a comment arrives. But, my laptop sits on the kitchen table...so I like to think that if I am needed for something, I can do it. And the girls don't usually watch tv...but I will quickly send them outside. Or delay going over Katie's school work while I write one more line. And then of course, I have spread the joy by getting Katie started with blogging.

Cindy said...

Oh my, my daughter said to me the other day, "Mom you're addicted." Now I'm thinking maybe I really am - but I don't want to stop. I'm with Veronica I just think everyone else has such fascinating lives!

Ben & Hillari said...

I found your blog off of Lulaville which I found off of someone else's! haha! Does that tell you about my blog addiction?! I can't wait to read through your whole blog (then add you to my mental list of blogs I stalk)! My husband thinks I'm nuts! (Even though his name is on our signature he's never touched the blog!) I totally feel like I know the people I read about! While sadly I'm not super good about updating our blog as much as some of you good bloggers, I love to have comments! I recently updated my blog and wiped out my counter...makes me sad to start at zero again!

Lula! said...

I now feel as if I've reached a small level of "Debbie-Success." Lookie there--Hillari found you because of ME. Ain't God good? Hillari, keep comin' back 'cause Debbie's my BFF/blogging mentor and she's the best!

And, to answer your question, I did not get addicted to blogging 'til I met YOU. I mean that in the best way possible, my dear.

Really loving this series you've got going here...you are my Fairy Blogmother. Again, not an age reference, but more of a respect reference. Does that make sense? YOU ARE NOT A GRANNY!!!!

Can you tell I'm high on all the meds Scotty gave me to combat this case of "almost pneumonia?"
p.s. Libbey just said, "I love this music..."

Kimba said...

Oh girl. We ARE kindred spirits. I could have written this post. I've been blogging such a short time and the addiction complete.

I think about what I can write. I have a little notebook where I can jot down ideas for posts. I think about other people's blogs.

I sneak off constantly to see if anyone has commented. My mood each day is directly related to the number of comments I get.

This is going to sound WAY to stalker-ish but since we're being real...I'll look at my reader stats and try to figure out which IP belongs to which visitor. I'm pathetic.

Kimba said...

Oh - and since you're also a Diet Coke and lemon girl, try this...3/4 Diet Coke, 1/4 lemonade. Yum!

Jennifer P. said...

yes. yes. yes. yes. all of the above.

Homeschooling and blogging are a lethal combination because I have TWO things that occupy nearly all my time. Next, I'll be adding student status on top of it all and wonder how i'll fit it all in. Sleep seems to be the first thing to go! I do notice my posts get funnier the more tired I get. I get a little goofy past midnight. Or maybe they just SEEM funnier to me because I'm tired.....

and no---I don't think we need a 12 step yet :)!

Nichole Jolene said...

hello debbie!

hi my name is nichole and i'm a blogaddict (hi nichole)

at least we've taken the first step. no time to chat back to the blog. i must blog! i must blog!

but seriously, i can stop at any time. seriously...

Mrs. Romero said...

Okay, you need to take responsibility for people like me..who were not addicted until they found bloggers like you...all funny and witty and friendly.. geez, what kind of operation are you running over here?

I am raising my hand high and proud. I have an addiction to blogging. And, right now, I am totally okay with that.

Gina said...

Having my own company means that I have a fully functional office- so I sneak out there (It's in 1/2 of the garage- and I blog when I think no one will come looking for me. Totally addicted. I have about 20 minutes in the morning when I make my rounds. I make mental notes of who has something new and quick, who has something new and long, and who I need to come back and check for something new later....
And then I come back in quick peeks throughout the day.
Hi, I'm Gina. I'm an addict.

Nicole said...

Oh I a so with you on this. My house used to be pretty darn clean, well ever since I started blogging, it's taken a real hit. I've never been so behind on laundry in my life. When I have a new post I probobly check it like 20 times a day to see if there are any comments, it's ridiculous. I keep thinking that maybee since I'm new at this, the addiction will wear off after time (yeah right)!!!

Piggy said...

I'm not addicted to blogging. I'm addicted to my baby, so I started my blog to share the joy. In exchanging blogs with another new mom who has a link to your blog, not to mention moving over three hours from all the friends and family I've ever known in my life as well as being a homebody, e-mail and blogging have become my form of human interaction. In a way, I like it more because it fits around my new family schedule and allows me to organize my thoughts for better quality of communication.

Rph Mommy said...

I am so glad that I'm not the only one who blogs in her head all day.

Kelly said...

Lets see....
when: early morning or late night
(mentally 24/7)

where:anywhere..laptop & air card make it tooooooo easy.

how: usually drinking coffee, tea, or a coke or a viatmin water, great choice huh? lol

am I addicted? I would have to say some days yes, other days no, I guess it depends on the priorities going on here. Plus with home schooling the computer is usually on at home all day so it is easy to pop in and check mail or read a blog or to comment or post quickly.
I enjoy it, and I enjoy so much reading yours!!

Piggy said...

I'm back! After rereading my comment, I thought it may have sounded somewhat anti-social, so I thought I'd clarify. I've always been an extrovert, but have become more introspective as I got baptized as an adult and other experiences in life like discrimination when I moved down south. I'm not one to drown in feelings of oppression; I'm just realistic. The previous blog about the person who "didn’t think she liked me because she thought I seemed 'too perfect, too smart, and too funny,'" was interesting because that is exactly why I like the privacy of e-mail and blogging without people necessarily knowing what I physically look like, not that I care what anyone thinks of me because all that matters is that I treat others with respect and honesty. Being "too perfect, too smart, and too funny" isn't a criticism or conceit because those are wonderful traits that one should be proud of and that draw me to people. Upon receiving an apology after being unexpectedly replaced on an all-male government team for being "a pretty, young female," I realized that all those business conduct guidelines are meaningless and decided to work from home. It turns out to be one of the best decisions I've ever made. I have never been more successful in my career or personal life now that I have a good work/life balance. I had not personally experienced any discrimination when I lived in NY and in fact was considered as an honorary brother of an all-male fraternity with whom I had played football and basketball. As a short, Asian female, I was always underestimated on the court, which I used to my advantage. I was mistaken for a secretary rather than a manager on multiple occasions when I joined a new project, but I never asserted my authority. I let my actions speak through quality results. My differences allow me to leave a lasting impression when people realize that had misjudged me. Now that I have totally digressed, I'll let you all get back to the original topic of blogging addiction, but thanks for listening. Blogging and commenting are good ways of expressing yourself. I know that writing helps me sort through my thoughts and feelings to keep me rational.

Melissa Lester said...

Well, this is a prime example of my blogging addiction. I try to delay blogging in the mornings until after I have exercised, started some laundry and done some other tasks around the house. But since I had to come upstairs this morning, I just wanted to pop on to see if I had any new comments. And now I'm still here, stuck to my chair for the rest of the day, because I'm too stiff to get up from lack of exercise!

And about your earlier post on comments, I used to read blogs but never made a comment -- even on a friend's blog -- until I had a blog of my own. Then I was in the blogosphere and somehow felt like I could do it. Origianlly I would comment on real-life friends' blogs, but I was hesitant to comment on new blogs because I feel like I would be butting in on a conversation among a witty clique of friends. I had the image in my head that everyone would turn around like, "Who invited her to the party?" But gradually I'm coming out of my shell, and look at me now, leaving a novel instead of a comment!

Julie said...

I do think about what I am going to blog all day long. I wish that I had more feedback, because everyone likes feedback, but I have come to realize that my blog is really set up for our family to record memories and it must be boring for those who don't care. The thing that keeps me blogging (since you aren't a lurker and you and a couple others are the only ones who comment) that it is to be a future scrapbook of our lives after I print it into a book...and that is a fun thought. I have lots of lurkers and I would love to know who they are! Oh well, one day... oh and thanks for praying for us....I appreciate it so much.

Kimberley said...

Love that office, girl! I now know that we can really be bff's because your desk is on an angle!!!!

Heather said...

I NEED an office. I let my husband turn ours into his man-cave. He's earned it. Right now, I have a little built in desk in the kitchen. It's nice, but it's SMALL and my chair is hard. My bottom goes to sleep. I need a comfy chair and a bigger desk. And a window. And flowers. Lots and lots of flowers.

How am I addicted? I have an iPhone and check my email every few minutes even when I'm running errands to see who's commented. It's bad.

EEEEMommy said...

Can I put my hand down yet?
All of the above. You hit the nail on the head! Except I will not drink Diet Coke with Lime. There we must part ways.

Kat said...

Oh. My. Goodness. I so could have written this. I've only been blogging since May 19th and I am completely needing help. Everything you said - true. Very true. Oh, one more thing. I came by the way of Kimba as she has you linked. I clicked on you because you have "Life" in your blog title. I have "Life" (A Quiet Life) in my blog title. Pitiful, I know.

HeathahLee said...

Sigh...I could have written this post. Except with a Caffeine Free Diet Coke. I know, I know...what's the point? But caffeine gives my heart a little too much to beat about. Anyway, I know that with anything I've become obsessed about in the past, the newness will wear off sooner or later. I just hope my husband has enough clean underwear to last till then.

Katy Lin :) said...

lol! i'm totally there! i admit, i do wake up wondering if i have new comments, and i read everyone else's blogs whenever i get the chance! i need help! :)

Tracey said...

Hi, it's me and I have cut back so much I haven't read many blogs in 10 days!!!

When: whenever I make time, usually in the evening.

Where: my laptop on the couch (I just had to spell couch 3 times before I got it right.)

How: all day and sometimes in my dreams I am thinking up blog posts.

Addicted: possibly, but trying my best to practice moderation. My husband and my babies are more fun than any blog post I could write, but it is easy for me to get sucked in by my laptop.

Tracy P. said...

Anytime. Anywhere (in the house). I'm hooked. But thankfully I know if I don't shut the computer I won't have anything to blog about.

The Roost'er said...

Oh, how I needed this today. I'll blog about it later (I NEVER blog during the day --- but today I made an exception and my kids are busy watching Dora and allowing me a few minutes) but, it's been a rough one emotionally.

You're like my BlogMom. Thanks for taking care of the rest of us. Now, re: all your ?s...I don't remember them all, but, addicted:yes. Think about blog-worthy moments:all the time.

oops. gotta go
~karin

Sue said...

OMG - I totally need Sitemeter rehab. I check like 6 times a day. LEAP out of bed on "post" mornings to see overnight comments. You know what scared the crap outta me, tho? Go to rockstarmommy.com. Right now it's a blank black page that says "we had a time ;) but it used to have a paragraph about how she was missing moments in her family's lives and made the decision to stop blogging. Yikes. That one hit me. Anyhoo - adding you to my blogroll!

Amy said...

My answer is "YES" to all of the above. I check email constantly throughout the day, and I couldn't be more obsessed now! I blog when the mood strikes me, but I've even DREAMED of what to blog about, now that is bad!